01: In The Beginning
In this podcast Greg and Amy share their journey of overcoming challenges and differences in their 26 years of marriage that originally created conflict and now creates complementary balance. They share their stories of personal growth through anxieties , desire differences, conflicts and how these struggles created intimacy and partnership.
02: Female vs Male Eroticism
In this episode, Amy and Greg explore the differences between male and female eroticism, emphasizing how women often separate emotional and physical arousal, while men typically experience them together. They discuss the importance of emotional connection, self-awareness, and authentic partnership in enhancing intimacy and overcoming the challenges posed by differing sexual needs..
03: Back to Basics
In this episode, we tackle the complexities of emotions in marriage, focusing on how to manage your own feelings and the masks we wear to influence how our spouse sees us. We also explore the power of choice whether it's in how we navigate tough situations or allowing for the difficult truth that divorce is an option. Join us as we get honest about the emotional layers that impact our relationships and the decisions we face.
04: But I Want It
In this episode, we dive into some real, raw conversations about intimacy, desires, and the mistakes we’ve made along the way. It’s not just about physical acts like a blowjob, but about overcoming challenges through honesty and letting go of the need for constant validation. We share personal stories, discuss what it means to truly make space for each other in a relationship, and how freeing it is when we release expectations and embrace deeper connection.
05: Scarred but Not Stuck: Embracing Healing
In this episode, we explore the fascinating connection between physical and emotional healing through the lens of scar tissue therapy. Just as engaging with physical scars helps the body heal, confronting emotional pain is key to processing and growing from our deepest wounds.
06: Chosen & Desired: Unpacking Male Eroticism
In this episode, we unpack the complex dance of intimacy, revealing why men often crave physical connection as a pathway to emotional closeness, while women may seek emotional grounding before entering the physical realm. We also confront the raw pain of rejection, the seductive trap of neediness, and how integrating and owning your desire while allowing your spouse to do the same- is the path to true intimacy.
07: Discovering Desire: Journey to Seeing Myself, My Body and My Spouse’s Sexuality in a New Light
In this episode we explore Amy’s journey from girlfriend to wife and how past purity culture framings were not helpful in creating desire or intimacy. We also discuss what helped her accept herself, her body and her desire as well as give resources for listeners in their personal journey.
08: Unfiltered Intimacy: Courage to know and be known
In this episode, we dive into the power of facing hard truths and how embracing vulnerability strengthens our relationships and sense of self. We explore the courage it takes to let go of control, confront our fears, and allow our partners—and ourselves—to be fully seen. Through honest conversation, we unpack what it means to create a safe space for truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. Join us as we discuss how stepping into this openness can deepen intimacy, build trust, and ultimately help us grow into braver, more authentic versions of ourselves.
09: The Dance of Desire and Disappointment
This episode explores the inherent link between desire and disappointment in marriage. Learning to own your desires and face disappointment is an integral part of a healthy marriage relationship. We discuss ways to navigate this dance of desire and disappointment in a way that maintains connection and allows room for both spouses.
10: Rewriting Your Narrative: Finding Gratitude in Your Journey
In this episode, we explore the power of owning your story and finding gratitude in your experiences, even the ones you wouldn’t have chosen. Amy walks Greg through a reflective exercise (from her coach Kim Job) using five key questions which help identify how these life experiences have contributed to making him who he is today. We discuss how embracing your journey with gratitude instead of resentment or shame, you can own yourself, becoming more differentiated, and create more capacity for intimacy.
11: The Erotic Evolution: Navigating the Five Phases of Intimacy
In this episode, we invite Dan Purcell as our guest and explore what he calls the 5 Phases of Intimacy—a journey every couple navigates as their relationship evolves. From the excitement of discovery in the “Creation” phase to the playful freedom of full connection in the “Freedom“ phase, each stage presents unique challenges and opportunities for growth. Along the way, couples learn to balance routines in the “Maintenance” phase, rekindle passion in the “Novelty” phase, and deepen their emotional bond in the “Meaning” phase. Join us as we discuss how intimacy grows and transforms, creating a richer, more authentic connection over time.
12: The Adult Playground: Where Desire Meets Fantasy
Summary: An Adult Playground is the sexual relationship of a married couple—a space for connection, exploration, and mutual delight. In this episode, we unpack how to cultivate this kind of intimacy and why it’s so transformative.
Here’s what you’ll discover:
Desire vs. Expectations – How expectations can destroy intimacy and prevent playfulness in your marriage.
Eroticism and Fantasy – Why they’re a healthy, natural part of intimacy and how to integrate them.
Faith and Sexuality – Why building an Adult Playground is an act of trust and vulnerability, not a slippery slope into sin.
Freedom and Boundaries – How both are essential to creating a space that is safe, fun, and deeply connecting.
13: From Conflict to Connection: Mastering the Art of Repair
Buckle up! In this episode, Greg and Amy dive headfirst into one of the most pivotal (and often avoided) aspects of marriage: repair. They tackle the messy, vulnerable, and sometimes downright awkward moments that come with mending broken connections. From anxiety and embarrassment to the raw truths about how conflicts escalate, this episode doesn’t hold back.
Greg and Amy break down the patterns that trap couples in a loop of arguments—defensiveness, stonewalling, or plain old misunderstanding—and offer a no-nonsense roadmap for turning things around. They share real-life examples from their own marriage that’ll have you nodding in recognition (or wincing at the familiarity).
With equal parts candor and humor, they lay out the essential steps for repair: owning your mess, unpacking the emotions behind the tension, and putting in the work to rebuild trust. And yes, they admit—it’s not always easy, but the payoff is undeniable.
If you’re ready to stop sweeping issues under the rug and start creating a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode will light the fire. And don’t worry—Greg and Amy remind you that asking for help isn’t a weakness; it’s a superpower.
14: Holiday Intimacy: Keeping Close During Busy Times
In this episode, we dive into the holiday season, a time filled with joy, stress, and lots of family time. We reflect on the importance of staying emotionally connected with our partners, not just through the big events, but in our daily lives. There's a great emphasis on practicing emotional check-ins - a ten-minute daily ritual where each spouse shares their feelings openly while the other listens without judgment.
We also touch on how these practices can extend to other family relationships, even with those who might see the world differently. It's about building bridges and finding joy in connection, despite differences. We share personal stories about our own experiences and the importance of fostering intimate relationships within the family, highlighting the unpredictable yet beautiful nature of human connections during the holidays.
Thank you for tuning in, and as always, we appreciate your loyalty and listenership. Have a wonderful holiday season, and don't forget to keep nurturing those connections!
15: Integrating Sexuality: Overcoming Shame and Building Intimacy in Relationships
In Episode 15, we dive into integrating sexuality into our identities and relationships. We talk about the importance of removing shame and understanding our sexual desires, both for higher and lower desire partners. We share personal stories and coaching experiences to highlight why vulnerability, honesty, and open communication are key. We also discuss how initial feelings of disgust can transform into arousal with patience and understanding. Finally, we invite you to explore our coaching services for further guidance, emphasizing that working on yourself is essential for a thriving relationship. Feel free to reach out, share the podcast, and let's keep undressing intimacy together!
16: Balancing Acts: Over and Under Functioning in Relationships
In this episode, we dive into a topic that's incredibly personal and significant to us: the dynamics of over functioning and under functioning in relationships, especially in marriage. We'll discuss how these behaviors manifest, why they happen, and the profound impact they can have on intimacy. We'll share our personal journey, including how over functioning affected our relationship and created distance between us. We'll talk about the struggle of changing these deeply ingrained patterns and how we both had to learn to step back or step up to create a healthier, more balanced partnership. Whether it's about taking responsibility for someone else's health, managing household chores, or even navigating sexual intimacy, we'll discuss it all. By sharing our insights and experiences, we hope to help you identify and address these patterns in your own relationships. Join us in this conversation to better understand how over functioning and under functioning can affect you and learn ways to create a more intimate and collaborative partnership.
17. Intentions and Actions: Cultivating True Intimacy
In this episode, we dive into a topic that's incredibly personal and significant to us: the dynamics of over functioning and under functioning in relationships, especially in marriage. We'll discuss how these behaviors manifest, why they happen, and the profound impact they can have on intimacy. We'll share our personal journey, including how over functioning affected our relationship and created distance between us. We'll talk about the struggle of changing these deeply ingrained patterns and how we both had to learn to step back or step up to create a healthier, more balanced partnership. Whether it's about taking responsibility for someone else's health, managing household chores, or even navigating sexual intimacy, we'll discuss it all. By sharing our insights and experiences, we hope to help you identify and address these patterns in your own relationships. Join us in this conversation to better understand how over functioning and under functioning can affect you and learn ways to create a more intimate and collaborative partnership.
101: Overcoming Roadblocks to Intimacy & Sexual Desire
What are unhealthy and healthy ways of responding to your spouse’s desire level?
177: Coaching A Couple Through Resurrecting Their Dead Sex Life, with Dan Purcell & Amy Langford
Sex can be replenishing for the relationship. It can be bonding has many health benefits and breeds life into an otherwise mundane partnership.
180: The Secret to Transforming Your Marriage Isn't So Hidden After All: A Conversation with Dan, Amy, Tammy, and Greg
Today, I invited Amy, Greg and Tammy, who are my colleagues and coaches in my programs and also at my retreats, to have a conversation about the most recent retreat as well as our new program.
38: CREATING INTIMACY BEYOND THE NEST
In this awesome podcast episode, we've got relationship and intimacy coach Amy Langford spilling the beans on her coaching journey and the hurdles she faced in her own marriage.
15: Up-level your life, an interview with Life Coach Amy Langford
Learning daily mind management is where the secret to clarity is revealed. And today, as we speak with Life Coach, Amy Langford, you’ll hear so many strategies to uncover the lies you’re telling yourself that are holding you back from the peace and joy we all seek.
What creates a healthy relationship in marriage?
What is the power of vulnerability?
What is it to truly see another in marriage?What creates a thriving marriage?
Amy and Greg Langford touch on these and so much more in today's incredible interview!
Mating in Captivity
by Esther Perel/ Audio & Hardcopy
Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
- Understanding of eroticism and passion
Why couples favor the domestic, structured part of a relationship - How to create more room for passion and balance structure with flexibility, friendship with passion, domestic and erotic
US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
by Terrence Real/ Audio & Hardcopy
At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
- Learn to tend to your own immaturities so you can be present in a relationship
- Learn to move past "you vs me" to create a healthy "we"
- Learn how to repair and rebuild
Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life
by Emily Nagoski/ Audio & Hardcopy
An essential exploration of why and how women's sexuality works - based on groundbreaking research and brain science - that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
- A comprehensive guide to Women's Sexuality including brakes and accelerators
- Physical Arousal vs Desirable Sexual Contexts and Meanings
- Inherent beauty of women's sexual parts despite media messages
Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage
by Tammy Hill
For anyone who believes that human sexuality is a sacred and divine gift, it can be difficult to find resources that are adequately informative yet treat the topic with the reverence and respect it deserves.
Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage is the answer for anyone who has been frustrated by information this is either too vague, too academic, too spiritual, or too pornographic.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
- How the sexual and spiritual are both combined
- Specific couples exercises to develop and build a spiritual and sexual relationship
- Practical applications to explore and understand your sexuality
Permission to Feel
by Dr. Marc Brackett / Audio & Hardcopy
After 25 years as an emotions scientist, Dr. Brackett has developed a blueprint for understanding our emotions and using them wisely so that they help, rather than hinder, our success and well-being.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
- Emotional RULER tool that is high-impact and fast-effect approach to understanding and mastering emotions
- Implementing RULER tool that is equal parts rigor, science, passion and inspiration to reduce emotional suffering and create emotional thriving.
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
by David Schnarch PhD (Author)
- “A classic.” ―William H. Masters, M.D.
Passionate Marriage has long been recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. This updated edition explores the ways we can keep passion alive and even reach the height of sexual and emotional fulfillment later in life. Acclaimed psychologist Dr. David Schnarch guides couples toward greater intimacy with proven techniques developed in his clinical practice and worldwide workshops. This inspirational book is sure to help couples invigorate their relationships and reach the fullest potential in their love lives.s
Everything Isn't Terrible
by Dr. Kathleen Smith / Audio & Hardcopy
Everything Isn't Terrible is an informative and practical guide -- featuring a healthy dose of humor—for people who want to become beacons of calmness in their families, at work, and in our anxious world.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
- Learn to confront yourself
- Take charge of your anxiety
- Increase your capacity to respond instead of react in relationships