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No matter where you and your partner are at in your relationship journey, the resources on this page will help!

Suggested Books & Articles:

That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love

 


That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love
by Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 

What if the path to deeper spirituality isn’t through resisting your sexuality—but through more fully embracing it?

For many Latter-day Saints, sexual intimacy is experienced as a pleasant pastime, a bargaining chip, a well of shame, a source of frustration—or even a necessary evil. Far less understood is its potential to be something much more: a source of deep joy, spiritual transcendence, and communion with another soul.

In a culture drawn to quick fixes and surface-level advice, That We Might Have Joy offers something deeper—an honest, in-depth look at how sexual intimacy acts as both diagnosis and cure for what ails modern marriage, and a meaningful invitation to create something richer and more connected. With clarity and compassion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife reframes sexuality not as a threat to faith, but a pathway toward it. She shows how sexual intimacy can reveal the truth of a relationship—and how, for those willing to confront that truth, it can become the starting point for something far more soul-sustaining.

That We Might Have Joy is a call to greater integrity—within our marriages, our faith, and ourselves. It invites us to live more honestly, love more deeply, and discover what becomes possible when we heal the division between our spiritual and sexual selves.

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Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship
by Stephen Snyder, M.D. 

The Essential Guide to Great Sex in Committed Relationships

Winner of the prestigious Nautilus Gold Book Award for Relationships and Communication

Manhattan sex therapist Dr Stephen Snyder has won an international following for his unexpected insights on erotic life -- and his simple, actionable advice for greater satisfaction and fulfillment in committed relationships. This groundbreaking sex guide challenges conventional wisdom and turns traditional sex therapy inside-out to reveal the hidden secrets to great sex.

In this paradigm-shifting book, you'll discover:


Why "sex dates" don't work -- and what to do instead
The essential ingredient for great sex that few sex books even mention
Why sexual inspiration often goes missing in committed couples, and how to find it again
The negative cycles that lead to mediocre sex, and how to escape them
How to solve common sex problems, without having to work at it
Why male-female sexual relationships tend to be the hardest - and how heterosexual couples can beat the odds
Gentle, compassionate, and filled with compelling stories from Dr. Snyder's thirty years as a sex therapist working with thousands of individuals and couples, Love Worth Making, is essential reading for anyone hoping to keep sexual inspiration alive in a committed relationship.

Unlock the secrets to greater intimacy and passion today. Click the "Add to Cart" button, and discover the keys to Love Worth Making.

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True to You: A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself
by Kathleen Smith

A Guide to The Theory and Practice of Creating Authentic Relationships

When’s the last time you felt as composed as you portray to your boss, family and friends? If there’s a discord between the two, you’re not alone. Humans are master pretenders—we often seem stronger, calmer and more mature than we really are, while the truth is we’re full of doubts and self-criticism that pushes us to borrow reassurance from friends, beliefs from strangers on the internet, or attention that, in the moment, makes us feel successful, but leaves us totally hollow and burnt out.

True to You is a relatable self-help guide for people who want to learn to live less focused on others’ reactions and more confidently by their own principles. Readers will learn how to:

· Interrupt relationship patterns that keep you stuck.
· Rely less on praise and approval from others.
· Develop a solid sense of self in anxious times.
· Build more authentic and rewarding relationships.

Dr. Smith uses examples from the lives of her therapy clients to explain how we borrow confidence, calmness, and beliefs from our relationships and offers actionable steps and exercises for building a life with your own best-thinking. With a healthy dose of humor, she unpacks the science of our social nature, explaining why we try so hard to be what others want us to be and how we can start living from the inside out. By learning how to be more responsible for yourself, rather than over-responsible for everyone else, you can find the freedom to develop richer relationships, pursue what’s important to you, and feel steadier in this very anxious world.

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Mating in Captivity
by Esther Perel/ Audio & Hardcopy

Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

  • Understanding of eroticism and passion
    Why couples favor the domestic, structured part of a relationship 
  • How to create more room for passion and balance structure with flexibility, friendship with passion, domestic and erotic

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US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

by Terrence Real/ Audio & Hardcopy

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

  • Learn to tend to your own immaturities so you can be present in a relationship
  • Learn to move past "you vs me" to create a healthy "we"
  • Learn how to repair and rebuild 

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Come As You Are

 

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life

by Emily Nagoski/ Audio & Hardcopy

An essential exploration of why and how women's sexuality works - based on groundbreaking research and brain science - that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

  • A comprehensive guide to Women's Sexuality including brakes and accelerators
  • Physical Arousal vs Desirable Sexual  Contexts and Meanings
  • Inherent beauty of women's sexual parts despite media messages

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Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage
by Tammy Hill 

For anyone who believes that human sexuality is a sacred and divine gift, it can be difficult to find resources that are adequately informative yet treat the topic with the reverence and respect it deserves. 

Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage is the answer for anyone who has been frustrated by information this is either too vague, too academic, too spiritual, or too pornographic.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

  • How the sexual and spiritual are both combined
  • Specific couples exercises to develop and build a spiritual and sexual relationship
  • Practical applications to explore and understand your sexuality

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Permission to Feel

 


Permission to Feel
by Dr. Marc Brackett / Audio & Hardcopy

After 25 years as an emotions scientist, Dr. Brackett has developed a blueprint for understanding our emotions and using them wisely so that they help, rather than hinder, our success and well-being.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

  • Emotional RULER tool that is  high-impact and fast-effect approach to understanding and mastering emotions
  • Implementing RULER tool that is equal parts rigor, science, passion and inspiration to reduce emotional suffering and create emotional thriving.

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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
by David Schnarch PhD (Author)

  • “A classic.” ―William H. Masters, M.D.

    Passionate Marriage has long been recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. This updated edition explores the ways we can keep passion alive and even reach the height of sexual and emotional fulfillment later in life. Acclaimed psychologist Dr. David Schnarch guides couples toward greater intimacy with proven techniques developed in his clinical practice and worldwide workshops.  This inspirational book is sure to help couples invigorate their relationships and reach the fullest potential in their love lives.s

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Everything Isnt Terrible

 


Everything Isn't Terrible
by Dr. Kathleen Smith / Audio & Hardcopy

Everything Isn't Terrible is an informative and practical guide -- featuring a healthy dose of humor—for people who want to become beacons of calmness in their families, at work, and in our anxious world.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

  • Learn to confront yourself
  • Take charge of your anxiety
  • Increase your capacity to respond instead of react in relationships

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Podcast Episodes We Have Been Featured On:

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101: Overcoming Roadblocks to Intimacy & Sexual Desire

What are unhealthy and healthy ways of responding to your spouse’s desire level?

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177: Coaching A Couple Through Resurrecting Their Dead Sex Life, with Dan Purcell & Amy Langford

 Sex can be replenishing for the relationship. It can be bonding has many health benefits and breeds life into an otherwise mundane partnership.

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180: The Secret to Transforming Your Marriage Isn't So Hidden After All: A Conversation with Dan, Amy, Tammy, and Greg

Today, I invited Amy, Greg and Tammy, who are my colleagues and coaches in my programs and also at my retreats, to have a conversation about the most recent retreat as well as our new program.

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38: CREATING INTIMACY BEYOND THE NEST

In this awesome podcast episode, we've got relationship and intimacy coach Amy Langford spilling the beans on her coaching journey and the hurdles she faced in her own marriage.

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15: Up-level your life, an interview with Life Coach Amy Langford

Learning daily mind management is where the secret to clarity is revealed. And today, as we speak with Life Coach, Amy Langford, you’ll hear so many strategies to uncover the lies you’re telling yourself that are holding you back from the peace and joy we all seek.

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What creates a healthy relationship in marriage?

What is the power of vulnerability?
What is it to truly see another in marriage?What creates a thriving marriage?
Amy and Greg Langford touch on these and so much more in today's incredible interview!

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