Are you feeling stuck & hopeless in your marriage or relationship? I can help you create a thriving & intimate relationship.
Do you know how to regulate or process your own emotions? Most people do not. Those who don't know how to process or regulate their own emotions will try to control or people please others in their relationships in order to feel good about themselves. In adult relationships you can love or control- both can't exist at the same time. I will teach you emotion processing and differentiation to help you regulate yourself and bring love instead of control to your marriage relationship. I will show you all the losing strategies that are based in control and the winning strategies that are based in love.
Do you know how to create intimacy? Most couples want intimacy but they have no idea what actually creates intimacy. Many people believe the fantasy that their spouse's job is to make them happy which is not only false but impossible. Intimacy is an honest, connected, passionate relationship that begins with you and extends out to your spouse. I will coach you on what is blocking your intimacy, your brakes and accelerators, your contexts and meanings of eroticism, higher and lower desires, and I will teach you how to create true intimacy in your relationship.
We are always communicating in our relationships- and sometimes we use words! I will help you uncover your communication patterns to help you see what and how you are communicating. I will show you you how to belong to yourself and be in connection with another which requires healthy esteem and functional boundaries. I will also guide you through how to have hard conversations so you process completely through the cycle of harmony --> disharmony --> repair.