Building a lasting and fulfilling marriage takes more than just love and commitment—it requires mastering key relationship skills. Here are three essential skills that can transform your relationship and bring you closer to your partner.
Relationship Skill #1: Emotional Regulation
Do you know how to regulate and process your own emotions? Many people don’t, and this can lead to trying to control or people-please in relationships, all in an effort to feel good about themselves. In adult relationships, you can either love or control—both can’t exist at the same time. I can teach you how to process your emotions and differentiate yourself, so you can regulate your own feelings and bring love, not control, into your marriage. I’ll help you identify the losing strategies rooted in control and replace them with winning strategies grounded in love.
Relationship Skill #2: Creating Intimacy
Intimacy is something most couples desire, yet many don’t understand what truly creates it. There’s a common misconception that it’s your spouse’s job to make you happy, but this is not only false—it’s impossible. True intimacy is an honest, connected, and passionate relationship that starts with you and extends to your partner. I’ll coach you on what’s blocking your intimacy, help you identify your brakes and accelerators, and guide you through understanding the contexts and meanings of eroticism. Together, we’ll explore how to balance higher and lower desires and create true intimacy in your marriage.
Relationship Skill #3: Effective Communication
We’re always communicating in our relationships—sometimes without even using words. Understanding your communication patterns is crucial to improving your relationship. I’ll help you see what and how you’re communicating, so you can belong to yourself while staying connected to your partner. This requires healthy self-esteem and functional boundaries. I’ll also guide you through having difficult conversations, teaching you how to navigate the full cycle of harmony → disharmony → repair. With these skills, you can communicate more effectively and build a stronger connection with your spouse.
Mastering these three relationship skills can significantly enhance your marriage, creating a deeper, more loving connection with your partner. Let’s work together to build the marriage you’ve always wanted.
