Eroticism is often misunderstood, reduced to a list of sexual acts or fantasy. But true eroticism goes much deeper. It’s not just about what you do in the bedroom; it’s about how you engage with life and connect with your own passions and desires.
What is Eroticism?
Eroticism is more than just sexual desire. It’s an expression of your individuality, creativity, and passions. It’s the “life force” that makes you feel vibrant and engaged. Eroticism can manifest in various ways beyond sexuality, such as:
- Passions and Interests: What activities or hobbies make you feel truly alive?
- Creativity: How do you express yourself creatively?
- Desires and Dreams: What are your personal aspirations and goals?
Identifying and nurturing this eros energy—your innate creativity and expression—can enhance your connection with yourself and your spouse.
Why Does Eroticism Matter in Marriage?
Without eroticism, marriage can become routine and transactional. Eroticism adds a spark of passion, creativity, and vitality. Here’s why it’s crucial:
- Brings Aliveness: Eroticism injects energy and enthusiasm into the relationship.
- Fosters Attraction: Couples often feel most attracted when they see their partner engaged in something they love.
- Creates Balance: A healthy marriage blends love (nurturing and caring) with eroticism (passion and creativity).
Esther Perel, in Mating in Captivity, explains this balance perfectly: “For thriving couples, there is no dissonance between commitment and excitement, responsibility and playfulness. They can buy a home and be naughty in it. They can be parents and still be lovers.”
Reflect on Your Relationship
- How would you rate the love in your marriage?
- How would you rate the eroticism in your marriage?
Finding the right balance between love and eroticism can transform your marriage into a relationship that is both secure and alive.
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